Failure is not the opposite of Success.

Failure is part of Success!

I know that the word “failure” is a trigger for many people as it is associated with something going wrong. History has shown us that it has been ingrained in us as children at home, at school, and in society.  So, it is no surprise at all that most of us hold back from attempting anything new, yet, we want change and innovation.

Without failings, we cannot possibly succeed. We are not capable of creating anything new or innovative. We cannot solve problems, small or global, so what is it that we are really aiming to achieve?

Awareness is the key. I keep making a point to say that “once we are aware of something, it becomes choice!” We are now all aware that failing is a part of success, so now we have a choice to be cognisant of this and to work towards something new, knowing that there will be things that we attempt and fail at, but that will bring us one step closer than we were before. 

Letting go of what we knew and who we were allows us to become who we can be. It allows us to potentially do what we had previously thought was impossible. But first, we need to pause, recognise that this is where we are at, and make a choice to do something different. These lessons are ones that we can share.

When we are prepared to do it and to show others how, then they will do it too. This is what we, as parents, teachers, and leaders are equipped to do. If you want to influence, be the person that everyone learned from not the person that influences for personal gain. 

Influence for Impact 

We all have the ability to influence children, friends, family, peers, colleagues and even those we don’t even know.  We live in a society that is global and we all want to belong, but how we choose to belong comes back to how we influence. Our success in life becomes evident through our ability to enable others to be the whole of themselves and not an image of perfection or success. 

Humanity and life have failings, lessons, and of course the parts that we show the world, “the wins”. But for the most part, life has challenges, obstacles, and heartbreaking moments. If we are to be the leaders of tomorrow, we need to equip others with skills, tools, and the courage to step up, have a voice, and be themselves.

Be the beacon of light that shows others that you too can fall but that you have chosen to be seen whilst you are down and then also to be seen on the way back up.  Our humility and acceptance of failings in life are what will enable our future generation to lead from within rather than look outward for what is now a society of pretence that encourages facades that build wealth for the 1% of the population. 

There is no crisis, just the chaos we create. 

Chaos, as we know it, stems from the failings that we try to hide, the crisis that we are told is happening. The reality is that we all have the ability to pause and begin to change the course of our beliefs.

If things do not serve us, we need to allow them to pass. Do not get caught up in drama and hearsay that consumes your energy. Recognise the voice and energy that people bring with them; if it flows with a positive impact, embrace it, if not, recognise it and allow it to pass.

When we practice this behaviour, we not only feel gratitude, but peace within ourselves. Those around us will also feel the change and sense the difference. We know that we absorb more through what we see and feel from others than what they say, so instantly you have created a positive ripple. 

The art of saying No.

Saying no somehow feels like we are failing someone because we have not aligned or agreed with them. But if it does not serve you, why give it any energy? Why do you become compliant with something that does not resonate? It is these behaviours and actions that create both internal and external chaos. 

By saying “No” you give yourself permission to say “Yes” to the things that energise you. It allows you to give an opportunity to the things that bring you joy and it also shows others your boundaries and, most importantly, who you choose to become.

“Now that you are aware, these things become choices”.